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MENOPAUSE CAN impact relationships through emotional, physical, and cognitive changes, but open communication, mutual support, and seeking professional help can aid in navigating these challenges.
Emotional symptoms like irritability and mood swings can strain a partnership, while physical changes such as vaginal dryness can affect intimacy. Cognitive symptoms like brain fog can cause frustration, and sleep disruptions can increase tension.
According to life coach Nicola Clarke, menopause is a powerful season of transformation – physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
“As your hormones fluctuate, so can your moods, energy, and emotions. What many women don’t realise is that these internal changes often ripple outwards, affecting how we relate to our partner, family, friends, and even ourselves,” Clarke said.
One moment, she said, you might feel calm and connected, and the next, you are irritable, overwhelmed, or craving space from everyone.
“You might find yourself more sensitive, less patient, or craving more solitude. Maybe you are questioning long-standing patterns or noticing tension where things once felt easy. None of this means you are ‘losing it’, it means you are evolving. The truth? Everything is changing and that is not a bad thing,” Clarke said.
Now is the time to redefine your connections, she said, to learn to communicate openly:
• Learn to communicate openly about what you are feeling.
• Set boundaries that protect your peace and energy.
• Create space for deeper understanding, not just from others, but within yourself.
“Menopause invites you to rebuild relationships from a place of truth, compassion, and self-awareness. When you learn to honour your emotional shifts, you open the door to more authentic, supportive connections in every area of your life,” Clarke said.
WHY DOES MENOPAUSE AFFECTS RELATIONSHIPS
• Your energy shifts: You may no longer have the same capacity to please everyone, keep the peace, or carry emotional weight for others.
• Your tolerance changes: Things you once brushed off might now feel intolerable because your inner voice is demanding honesty and self-respect.
• Your priorities realign: You begin valuing authenticity over approval. Depth over small talk. Truth over comfort.
“Menopause becomes the mirror that reveals where emotional balance, respect, or mutual understanding may be missing,” Clarke said.
PHYSICAL EFFECTS
• Intimacy issues: Vaginal dryness and decreased libido can make sexual intimacy uncomfortable or less frequent.
• Sleep disruption: Night sweats and other sleep problems can lead to tiredness, which adds to relationship tension.
• Physical discomfort: Weight gain and other physical discomforts can affect self-esteem and how you interact with others.
HOW TO NAVIGATE THE CHANGE
• Communicate with love: Let your partner, family, or friends know what is happening, both physically and emotionally. They cannot support what they do not understand.
• Set energy boundaries: It is okay to say no, to rest, or to protect your space. Boundaries are not walls; they are bridges that help you connect more honestly.
• Practise emotional awareness: Instead of reacting, pause. Ask yourself, “What do I really need right now?” before responding.
• Offer yourself grace: You are not moody or ‘too much’. You’re becoming more attuned to your own emotional truth.
Healthy relationships grow when both people evolve together. Invite your loved ones into this journey, share what’s shifting, what you need, and what helps. Often, what feels like distance at first can lead to a deeper level of connection and empathy than ever before.
Menopause is not the end of closeness; it is the beginning of conscious connection, one that starts with you.
ADDITIONAL TIPS
• Seek professional help: A healthcare professional or counsellor can provide support and guidance for both physical and emotional symptoms.
• Adjust expectations: Understand that sex and intimacy may change and find what is enjoyable for both of you, rather than trying to maintain old expectations.
• Stay informed: Educating yourselves about menopause and its symptoms can help you navigate the changes as a team.
SOURCE: Nicola Clarke – Life Coach, Menopause Mondays, John Hopkins University.
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